Teenage or adolescent age is the most confusing one where everything remains as a question mark but the way of finding the best solution decides the whole life. The future of career as well as personal life totally depends upon the decision taken in teen age as well as the way chosen for the future. It is also the most difficult phase for parents to control their children and lead them in a proper way so that children can take decision which is best for their entire life. However, nurturing a teen mindset also includes keeping them away from bad or addictive things that can be easily habituated in this age and mainly distractions from career such as infatuation besides providing a positive environment. Even parents gets into anxiety and stress to think about their child’s future in this phase and which is why they need to follow some very essential parenting tips for parenting teenage children.
Tips for Parenting Teenagers
- Maintain a perfect line of communication: – Children start to keep secrets and hide things from their parents mostly in teenage. That may be about their studies or their life experiences or else about their companions. These things seem to be quite adjustable in future but if not nourished in the starting stage, this may lead to adverse outcomes. After school, a child gets more freedom from their home and some prioritized rules also emerges themselves from the same strict rules that parents have habituated their children in childhood. This freedom can have some bad affects in their future and the first and foremost thing that it can affect is education and career.
As a parent, you should always be closer to not only your child but also his/her mindset and the way of thinking. This helps you in understanding the position of your child’s mindset and you can be able to clarify their way to destination or goal by your experiences from life. Interaction with parents is the best way to stay away from bad or negative things in Teenage.
- Act based on their age: – You may be a strict parent controlling your child with unbreakable rules and discipline, but this nature never works in teenage. Although, some rules should be habituated from the core and should be imprinted in the mind that they should never be crossed, but most of them should be prioritized. Maintaining strict rules and discipline affects your child in a bad way and they get afraid to speak out their mind to you. Many children starts telling lie in this age and this will have some serious consequences without the support of parents.
There is no question that your child is always a child to you irrespective of age but increase of age also demands some compromises as they get to know about the society and reacts according to it.
Most parents think that keeping their boy away from girl will help in their concentration on studies with strict regulation but in fact the opposite happens in both genders.
A teenager who maintains a long distance from other genders being afraid of their friends are attracted to infatuation faster than others and gets distracted faster too. Thus, the best way would be to cultivate a mindset to think others as just a friend and being closer to girls should also be acceptable up to some extent. Boys who have a girl as best friend or a sister as a good companion never gets distracted by infatuation and moreover raises as a straight forward personality.
- Show them the difference and make them understand in their way: – In teenage, having a strict parent mindset and nature doesn’t work effectively as getting their way of thinking exposed to society and influenced by many other people changes their acceptance ability. This also leads to addictions like smoking, drinking etc and ends with severe consequences. Be a friend or a close companion to your child to make them understand the outcome of the way they have chosen. Use your own experiences to show them the difference between good and bad ways and the outcomes of both of them. Only a friend or a companion could do this in a better way when compared to a strict parent. Therefore, use their way of understanding to express your thoughts on their position of mindset.
- Help them in building a passion and aim for it: – There are many addictions and bad habits that teenagers are easily habituated to. Not only smoking or drinking but excess usage of mobiles, social media and gaming can also have adverse affects on their future. If you want your child to have a bright future without any compromises in future then you should try to understand their abilities and things that are interested in. Those things on which your children is interested can be changed as a passion only by parents if the ambition of that passion can be seen clearly in the present time. Never keep any limits for their practice and trials on their passion but maintain some safety measures from your side as a parent. Having a definite goal related to their passion keeps them focused on it and such Teenagers never gets distracted by negative things.
- Cultivate decision making skills and induce some responsibility: – The main reason for the teenagers getting spoiled is the lack of responsibility. Main reason for this situation is over protective parents as they never let their child think about the efforts parents are putting on to nurture their future. On the other hand, some parents also enforce every thought of them into the mindset of their children starting from selection of education stream to the career selection. Such children raises up as an afraid teenagers lacking decision making skills in any aspect and never gets success which means they can never get even closer to the ambition they are trying to reach.
Thus share your efforts with your child being a good companion and give some responsibility on their shoulders regarding your home and the needs. This will encourage their positive way of thinking and they will atleast give a try to stay away from things which are bad for them and can have bad consequences for their parents and family.